Price of Manners and Decency

I consider myself a polite person. I believe I'm overly nice to nearly everyone. I wasn't always polite, but I was never an a$$hole either. I just kind of did my own thing and ignored people for most of my early life. Ironically, television inspired me to be more polite to people. There was a show I was in love with called Due South. It was about a Canadian Mounty that traveled south in pursuit of his father's killer and decided to stay there. He was extremely polite, uncharacteristically intelligent, and just a general good guy. He constantly believed that people always had the best intentions. At first everyone thought he was weird, but his ways brought everyone around for the better.

What was most appealing about that show to me was how everyone just instinctively trusted him because of his good nature. His reputation was gold, and his word was his bond. So, I decided to try that lifestyle out. I made it a point to be nicer to everyone I knew, and go out of my way to be polite and help people. It was actually a lot easier than I thought, because, apparently, I'm just a nice person by nature. I was around people that weren't, and I thought that was the way you're supposed to be. What was more surprising was the motivation. To be completely honest, at first, I was motivated because I wanted more respect and I wanted to be praised for being nice. I wanted people to listen to me and value my opinions, etc. It was stupid, but I was a young kid who just didn't feel important. Something happened after about a month, though. I found I actually truly enjoyed helping people and how it made me feel. There was no greater feeling in the world.

As I've grown older into my mid-30's, something is troubling me. I'm finding it easier to start becoming more reclusive and bitter. The division in the country, the extremely strong political views, the need for everyone's opinion to be heard and understood, and the fact that if you do not agree with them, then there is either something wrong with you, or they need to explain it more. I don't remember it being this way. I remember a time when people would just say, "Eh, I see it differently," and we would move on. Now, everyone is offended and feel it's their right to not only have the opportunity to be heard, but to have everyone share the same opinion or they're wrong and intolerant.

I worry about the future of this country in general. The Politically Correct stuff is destroying some real values, it feels. It's making everyone want to simply keep opinions, thoughts, and ideas to themselves. Anything that is brought in the open is vulnerable, and the person that brought it out has the potential of being completely ruined, all because the majority of people didn't agree with them. It's gotten me to the point that I don't want to share an opinion on anything at all anymore, and that is very disturbing. What happened? How did we come to a place where differences were persecuted? It's like the equality everyone was fighting for didn't happen; it just changed sides.

Continuing Education

I think continuing education is important. I don't watch nearly the amount of television I did ten or even five years ago. I simply don't have time for it. I fill most of my time with trying to further my career and skills. I recently got cable television back, but it's really amazing. In the entire family, maybe one person might watch it for a couple of hours a week at the most. We all sit down from time to time to watch a family movie through it or the Xbox, but generally, we're on computers. Now, this does take time away from being with each other, but I think the time together getting out to do something or watching a movie at home helps to make up for it. Plus, the kids are getting to ages where they'll want to be alone more and more, and Vanessa (my wife) and I understand that.

The continuing education part is important though. Vanessa pointed out to me how much the kids pay attention to me constantly wanting to learn, read, study, and further myself. It's amazing, but the kids simply don't get bad grades that often, and they're learning more and more. They've advanced in a short time. Granted, they're supposed to be getting better slowly as they age, I get that, but they are genuinely curious and are really excelling in school. Nothing is "too hard" anymore. I thought maybe the schools were easier here, but I remember them really having a hard time in the beginning when they started, so it's not that. What's more, they really are taking an active interest in some of the subjects and thinking about careers. That part is actually exciting.

As far as the careers go, Vanessa and I are doing everything we can to try and make it a possibility for them. We want them to experience everything so they can make a decision. For instance, Joshua says he wants to be a marine biologist and work underwater - to scuba dive for a living. Well, there are classes that allow the introduction for only $25 in Hendersonville (not far from us), and I heard even closer. We're going to take him to those to see if he really likes it. I'm going to do it as well. :) And if he does, the whole certification program is only about $300, so it's very doable for him, and maybe even me. I'll enroll him in it, but I'll wait until my Pilot's School is complete first.

The point is, I think it's important to continually strive to better yourself. Just becoming satisfied with where you are is dangerous. There's nothing wrong with being grateful for where you've come from and where you are. Being humble, thankful, and generally appreciative for all of the blessings in your life is of vital importance. My sentiment is simply to not be afraid to keep pushing forward. My reasoning for it is like this:
I know countless people who have never smoked. They don't regret not smoking. I know many more who have smoked and quit, and they are grateful they have. Every single one of them wish they had never smoked to begin with. Those who are still smoking wish they could stop, but lack the willpower. There are a select-few that think smoking is okay, their right, etc.
Now, apply that same logic to education. I know several who wish that went to college, somewhat regret the cost, but glad they did it. I know many more who never went, and most wish they had, or would "like to one day." I don't know of any people that say college is a waste of time, except for people who are pursuing education in other ways, doing okay for themselves, etc. Some, granted, are just stubborn, I suppose. It makes sense, given the exposure of the people I've seen, that most people never regret continuing to learn, but many, many more, have great remorse over stopping.

Of course, there's statistical data to back all of this up, but the point is simply:

Never stop learning.

Public Journal?

I just updated my blog description and changed the name. Jedidiah May Blog is the title - simple. catchy, and it serves the purpose for now. It's true in life, just as everywhere else: the more you do, the more you learn. It's also true that the more you study, the more you learn. I believe it's again true that you study harder on what you want to do. When I first started this blog, I did so because I was simply curious how blogging worked, what kind of stuff you could do with it, how easy it was, etc. Well, curiosity fades, and eventually, that "new" feeling is gone. It probably happens to a lot of people. So, what's changed? Why am I starting back to blogging now?

Well, to start, new features! 😁 That's actually somewhat true about there being new features, but it's not the reason. The features and layouts are nice, but I have found something out about myself. Now that the newlywed lifestyle is slowing down, the kids are becoming more self-sufficient, I've got more time. I've discovered I really enjoy writing. I even attempted writing a book (attempted, still on the back burner). That part was pretty cool. And with the Kindle publishing options, I could even get it published myself. Much of that was, again, the "new" features and discovery. I'm a junky. I love learning new stuff. I also love to teach it.

And when I think about it, that's the reason I'm doing a few blogs now. I have one called Path 2 Developer that is chronicling my specific experiences and learning to become a computer programmer/developer. My other blog is called Path 2 Pilot (noticing the cool pattern?). This one, I'm chronicling the journey to actually getting a pilot's license and recording that experience. When I looked up information on both, the information was really sketchy and hard to follow sometimes. Pilot's license information varied so much, it was either so generic you couldn't get any real information or it was so technical, you couldn't understand it. The same was also true for becoming a developer. The information is all out there, but someone who knows nothing about programming would have a very hard time figuring out what to do. So, I feel it would be a good practice for me, as well as to help others, if I logged all of the experiences down.

So, that's my plan. To write everything out. I'm not exactly sure where the Jedidiah May Blog posts will fit in because nearly all of my time is going to be spent either learning to be Tom Cruise from Top Gun or Hugh Jackman from Swordfish. I suppose the interesting things that take place in between will have a home here. Maybe as I get time to actually write crazy ideas, they'll show up here.

Back to Blogging

It's been a few years since I've gotten online and blogged anything in a while. Life got in the way. I got married, full time with wife, kids, job, and me, and it's hard to find time for everything else. Now, however, things have finally slowed down a little. The one-year anniversary is coming June 25, so I've got to find something to do that's creative, but not too expensive.

It's awesome right now. My wife actually gave me an early Father's day gift that the kids were in on. They got me setup to do flying school and then actual flight lessons. School itself isn't too expensive, but I think the lessons might actually be. I'm not sure yet.

Now. The reason for the comeback. Well, it's about time. Computers are about to take me over again, and I'd love for them to. I've got a position as a tester and working toward becoming a developer. For the first time, it looks like it might actually be a possibility that I learn how to be a programmer for computers, which has always been a dream of mine. I want to learn it all. I want to be able to write code for apps, create websites, write software to run Raspberry Pi devices, you name it.

A book my group is reading now, the Software Craftsman, suggests writing a blog to help track your own progress. I really liked that concept. I write in journals now to just get ideas out of my head, and I think writing something down might help others as well.

So, long story short, I'm back. Back to blogging a little more often, I hope. I'm going to keep trying to fill my time with learning and progressing forward, rather than waste time. I hope it works out in that direction.